The Joneses from Georgia

The Joneses from Georgia
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Wednesday, September 29, 2010

OK. I said it. Losing a few football games is not the end of the world!

My son is a Senior at the University of Georgia and like most students, he sits in the student section at all the home games and supports his Dawgs.  He was hoping for a winning season; but right now, the Dawgs aren't doing so well.  UGA is currently 1-3.  One only has to read the local sports section to understand that there are a lot of unhappy fans out there.  So the Dawgs may not have a winning season.  They may not even go to a bowl game this year.  But more important than football ....

Will the players (and other students associated with the football program) stay focused on their studies in spite of their losses?   

You may be a football enthusiast.  But for the students that are part of the football program, they are also pursuing their educational goals.  While they want their team to win every football game, it won't be the worst thing that will happen if they don't have a winning season.  Ensuring the players receive their college degrees must outweigh a couple of hours playing football on Saturdays in the fall.  Except for a rare few who may end up playing football professionally, winning a game over Arkansas or South Carolina will only be memories discussed with their families over Thanksgiving dinner in ten or twenty years.  Finishing school will impact their livelihood for years to come. 

Education first and football second.  Let's not lose sight in what is really important.  

College sports give many players the opportunity to continue their education through scholarships.  It boosts the town's revenue when there are home games.  A college athletic program does have its advantages.  But losing a few games is not the end of the world.  Sports fans, get a grip.  There is always next year.  Pull for your Dawgs and enjoy the popcorn, beer, and the opportunity to scream at the TV for a few hours.  But in the end, let's be sure that these players get educated and do well in life in spite of losing a few games of football.

Go Dawgs!!  





Monday, September 6, 2010

What does football and decorating have in common?

One of my favorite networks is HGTV, specifically the shows that deal with buying, selling, and renovating homes.  Not only do you get to peek into the lives of other families as they make some of the same decisions that you make for your family, you also get to glimpse into the geographical location that they live.  It can be mind-boggling at times on how the housing market can be vastly different from East Coast to West Coast, but particularly abroad.   

I find myself watching the credits at the end to see exactly when the episodes were taped.  Was it before or after the housing market tanked?  What families pay for homes with so few modern conveniences makes me appreciate living in the good ol' U.S. of A.  What we call middle class would be considered luxury living compared to how some families live in other countries, while paying the same price for their homes.    

Just like sports fans who scream at the players and coaches from their sofas, I find myself shouting out comments to home buyers such as:

"Are you kidding? That isn't a large closet!"
"Oh, my gosh! That house is way too small for that price tag...good view or not."
"OK...a ceiling fan is not a big investment, but replacing those outdated cabinets will be."
"That is NOT a large back yard!"

So what does football and house hunting have in common?  Mostly wasted time, but very enjoyable wasted time!  For all you football enthusiasts that spend hours watching men tackle one another over chasing a ball every weekend, you can now make fun of me for spending hours looking at real estate, decorating tips, and home renovations that I may never put to good use as well.

Are we even?

Well....I may eventually get that outdoor fireplace,
as long as I don't ask my husband to install it
during football season!

Friday, September 3, 2010

Would you allow your child to go to college at age 16?

A few months ago, Steve and I visited the Advanced Academy at the University of West Georgia, the local college about 10 miles from our home.  Our youngest son, Bart, who was 16 years old and a Sophomore in high school at that time, came home from school all fired up about starting to college two years sooner.  Whoa--stop. My baby going to college at 16?  Sounds like a disaster in the making....but is it?

In 2002, the U.S. Department of Education showed only about 5% of high schoolers participating in this program.  A 2007 study from the Community College Research Center concluded that dual enrollment programs have a positive effect on high school graduation rates, besides early progress in obtaining a college degree.  In fact, my own husband participated in dual enrollment back in the mid 70's before he graduated from high school and it certainly didn't hurt him.  This is not a new concept.  It just wasn't something I had considered for Bart. So the question at that time was....

Is Bart ready for college at 16?  Are students ready for college even at 18? 

You hear all the horror stories about college life.  My husband and I met when we were both students in college and he and I have already sent our two older sons to college.  We know a little about college life...then and now.  Our oldest son, Ben, was shipped clear across the country to California for his first semester away from home.  Our middle son, Brant, is now a Senior at the University of Georgia, just named by the Princeton Review as the #1 party school in the nation!  From all indications, Brant would not be a winner if accolades were given to those that made this "award" possible.  But nonetheless, no one will disagree that ALL colleges include in their freshmen orientation the rules about under-age drinking, drugs, making good choices, etc.  

So what should a parent do?  The good news is that students today are given options.  If you are a first-time high school parent, meet with the school counselors and find out about the curriculum and options your child will have.  If you feel like the counselor isn't giving you sufficient information, do your own homework and keep asking questions.  As parents, it is ultimately our responsibility to ensure that we help our children forge through the educational, technical, and vocational paths to jobs and careers one day. 

We looked at all the options Bart had if he continued to stay in high school. We are 99% sure that Bart's major in college will be something in the engineering or technology fields. So we looked at what classes were offered at the vocational high school that would compliment his college resume along with his honors classes.  Taking some computer technology classes were a logical and valid option for him.

Bart has already begun his Junior year and for now, he has placed early college entrance on the backburner.  Steve and I can breathe a sigh of relief while we enjoy our "baby" for at least one more year! We'll see what happens next Spring!

A Room with a Flue


As I type this, I'm listening to the constant chirping and fluttering of chimney swifts who have made their home in the Jones family chimney. At first, only the softest of sounds are heard until someone will stop and say, "What's that noise?" before we realize our bird friends are back.  Then right before they leave their nest, they get so loud that you even have to crank up the television volume over their flutterings and chirpings! Although it's probably not more than four or five baby chirpers with their parents, it will sound like a flock or two nesting in our chimney!     

Some bird lovers actually build chimney swift towers in their attempts to entice the birds to their chimneys. While we didn't do that, I have considered why they took up residence in our chimney.  Looking back to when they first arrived, adding the pool to the back yard may have been the catalyst. The pool not only attracts small insects that these insectivores ingest, it is a short flight away from an ample water supply. Our back yard provides them with plenty of mosquitoes, flies, and other small critters that are part of their diets.  They are actually good boarders since they are part of housekeeping! That's more than I can say about the boys that live in this household!

Chimney Swifts are declining in numbers in the U.S., partially because homeowners cap their chimneys without consideration to our feathered friends. There were several years that we considered it, too.  But it's a small price to pay knowing we are helping preserve wildlife.  They only require about a foot of chimney space that certainly isn't used in the sweltering heat of Georgia every summer. The least my family can do is allow them a sanctuary for about 30-40 days while their babies hatch and then fly the coop...or chimney in this case!  If they can tolerate all the household noises coming from the Jones family, then a little loud chirping right before the baby birds leave their nest seems like a fair trade-off.

To read more about chimney swifts, you can go to www.chimneyswifts.org.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Do you think marijuana laws are outdated?

Close your eyes. When I say "death of a drug user," what image comes to mind? Most likely, it is an image of a young adult wasted on some kind of illegal drug use such as meth, cocaine, or heroin.  Your image would be partially wrong. Slightly more Americans die every day from legal drug abuse than illegal.  But by far, tobacco is the number one killer.  Take a look: 

Annual American Deaths from:
  • Tobacco - 400,000
  • Alcohol - 100,000
  • All Legal Drugs - 20,000
  • All Illegal Drugs - 15,000
  • Caffeine - 2,000
  • Aspirin - 500
  • Marijuana - 0

Were you surprised?  Not one death from smoking too much weed.  In fact, it's actually impossible to overdose on marijuana.  Yet an American is busted every 37 seconds in the U.S. for pot, the least offensive recreational drug out there.  Does anyone else see this as an injustice in the land of the free?   

Our legal system is still based on the ideology that if we stop the pot-smoker, we have saved a life wasted on drug abuse. Marijuana can be smoked responsibly in the same way someone drinks a couple glasses of wine at dinner or has a beer while watching a football game.  Instead, we criminalize the pot smoker.  Are we locking up everyone that drinks alcohol? Smokes cigarettes? Drinks a few too many cups of coffee every morning?  No.  Common sense prevails. But there is no common sense regarding pot usage. 

When it comes to marijuana, we have allowed the government to fill our heads with years of outdated, unproven, and even flat-out wrong data regarding marijuana usage.  Anyone that reads any medical or scientific data on marijuana today knows that it even has medicinal value, specifically for those with chronic pain.     

Should marijuana be a controlled substance?  Absolutely!  It isn't totally harmless.  It is a drug.  It shouldn't be in the hands of children and no one should drive intoxicated while under the influence of any drugs, including pot.  But just as adults choose to drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes legally as controlled substances, so should the marijuana smoker.  Certainly no one should go to jail just because they are in possession of small amounts of marijuana for personal use. 

If you have come to the conclusion that I am a pothead, you would be mistaken.  I have never smoked pot even once.  But I have experienced first-hand the injustices that smoking marijuana has caused my son, more specifically this past year.  Because we live in the state of Georgia, marijuana usage is not recognized even for medicinal purposes.  

To learn more about marijuana, its history, current laws, and the newest medical usage, visit the website for the National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws, norml.com, especially if your state is considering a vote for legalizing marijuana.  Be an informed voter!   

Monday, February 22, 2010

Things I will stop complaining about!

Do you ever get tired of hearing the same old complaints over and over?  Me, too.  Here are a few I'm gonna stop complaining about.....

Too much rain

I have yet to walk around my house in knee-deep water.  I also remember a time when we were begging for rain.  So no more griping about wet weekends.


Going to work

Considering 14.8 million workers were unemployed in January, about 10% nationally, I should be jumping for joy that I have somehow managed to hold on to my job. So when I'm hitting the snooze button a couple of times, I need to be thankful I have a job that requires me to rise and shine! 

Household chores

No one likes to clean house; but worse is if you can't physically perform mundane household chores.  From now on, I'm gonna be thankful that I can bend over, sort the laundry, and throw a load in!



 Problems with the housing market

Is this picture of Haiti enough of an explanation?


High cost of gas

Every summer gas increases.  Maybe if I stop complaining, it will stop climbing!  Gas is also cheaper in the U.S. than in many other countries.  I also don't want to have to start riding a bicycle to work everyday!


Poor road conditions

OK...so I have to dodge a pot hole here and there.  At least I have pavement everywhere I need to go.  


Wearing contacts to read

One of the downfalls of aging is wearing glasses or contacts to read.  I should be thankful that all I have to do is place a pair of contacts in my eyes and my problem is over. 


When my husband spends too 
much time hunting.


 At least he's hunting the four-legged variety!!

  

  

  





 







 

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Top 10 causes of death in America

For the first time in my life, I experienced the real possibility of a life and death situation.  Since I'm still driving a mini van, my wheels would have ended in the picture of the mini van above, with my youngest child just turning 16.  I would have missed out on the next four wheels of life, although I can't say that I'm looking forward to that last ride if it is going to be in a wheelchair. But I am willing to accept it if it means I get to experience all the other productive years before then.   

I am a sucker for a statistic, so I had to look up the fatality rate for accidental deaths.  I was surprised to see that accidents are the 5th leading cause of deaths!  OK...so it wasn't exactly outside the realm of possibility that I really could have died!!

Here are the top 10 causes of death in America (from 2006) from the Centers for Disease Control:   
  1. Heart disease
  2. Cancer
  3. Stroke
  4. Chronic Lower Respiratory Diseases
  5. Accidents (or unintentional injuries)
  6. Diabetes
  7. Alzheimer's Disease
  8. Flu and Pneumonia
  9. Nephritis, Nephrotic Syndrome, and Nephrosis  (kidney diseases and illnesses)
  10. Septecemia  (bacterial infections usually associated with severe diseases)
This list explains why our government has taken the outbreak of swine flu so seriously. I do not have problems with my heart or high blood pressure; and as far as I know, I do not have any kinds of cancer (knock on wood).  I have never smoked and do not live or work in areas that would cause me to have higher risks of respiratory problems including pneumonia.  I have no signs of diabetes, kidney issues, or any other diseases that would interfere in my ability to maintain good health.  Dying from an accident was probably the only area that made sense if I were to die right now at age 50.

Reducing risk factors will help you enjoy a long and productive life!  

We hear these messages all the time now.  Don't smoke, don't drink to excess, don't abuse drugs, exercise, and eat right.  There are reasons why we are constantly barraged with these health tips.  It prevents not only early deaths, but healthy choices allow us to live without chronic sicknesses and diseases that we can control when we finally reach those glorious senior adult years. 

I hope this "Top Ten" list will help you consider your current lifestyle choices.  Take care of yourself so that you can enjoy your life to the very end!!  You only get this wonderful gift called life once!!

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Check out this chart...must see for parents!!

If you read my last blog about drugs and alcohol dependencies and the legality of marijuana, you will find this graph interesting.  My first cousin, Jason Shumake, has his Ph.D. in psychology/behavioral science and is currently an adjunct professor at Texas State University in Austin.  He read my blog and zipped over this graph for me to share.  It is a graph from "The Lancet," a medical journal, on the relative harm of different drugs of abuse. On the y-axis (dependence) is the addictive potential of the drug, on the x-axis (physical harm) is the risk of death...either from short-term overdose or from increased risk of terminal disease over the long-term.  Note that "cannabis" has less dependency and increased risk than tobacco and alcohol.


However...it should be noted that marijuana (cannabis) is on the chart, which means IT IS A DRUG and like ALL drugs, should be avoided whenever possible as a potential risk factor for causing harm to your health.  But this is just more proof that it does not make sense how we criminalize marijuana instead of legalizing it so that it can be controlled like all other drugs. My point is CONTROLLING it when it has such a widespread usage in the U.S., just like we control alcohol and tobacco.  The same rules would be in place that would prevent anyone under 21 from accessing it, and of course, no smoking and driving.  Essentially, it would be treated just like our alcohol laws.

I would love to hear your opinion on the legalization for controlling marijuana!!

My Salute to the men and women in white...and you, too, God!!


As a 50 year old, I have never had any stitches or broken any bones from accidents.  In fact, the only time I have ever had an overnight stay in a hospital was to have my three boys.  I don't know whether to say I've lead a dull life or have always tried to be safe in my everyday endeavors.  But either way, I have been able to avoid emergency rooms.....until last weekend. 

All I did was go outside to make a few pictures of the 3 inches of snow that is rarely seen in Georgia. This means, of course, that I don't have all the necessary equipment for snow, like a good pair of boots that will prevent me from slipping on the icy spots.  Yep!  You guessed it.  I slid on my concrete drive and did a number on the back of my head when I hit.  For the next 10-15 minutes, my memory is rather vague on exactly what happened.  But I did go back in the house, awoke my youngest son who went and found my husband, Steve.  A trip to the ER was determined necessary when I kept repeating the same questions over and over, besides the obvious cut to the back of my head that would need some stitches.  

Once in the ER, a catscan was ordered once my confusion was discussed.  Once the results came in and after I received 5 staples to the back of my head, the ER physician explained that I had some bleeding in a couple of places around my brain and they were going to ship me off to one of the hospitals in Atlanta if my brain decides to swell and a little drilling is required. While a helicopter flight is not considered necessary, a trip via ambulance is.  OK...wake up call!  I thought I might have a slight concussion, but a trip to a trauma center in Atlanta, drilling into my brain....am I dreaming?!! 

I am so very grateful for the years of education, training, and dedication that the medical profession must pursue so that they can help save lives and this time, possibly my own. They have the procedures down pat as they begin hooking you up, checking your vitals, someone is usually shouting orders, and you feel pretty good that they know what they are doing.  We give our salutes to the men and women who wear military uniforms on a regular basis.  We even have a couple of holidays where we honor them.  But without a doubt, we don't give our men and women in white the same kudos often enough. We pull up to emergency rooms and expect that the doctors, nurses, and various technicians, including EMT's, are going to help us.  We never consider that help won't be there.  We expect it.

I ended up spending 24 hours under observation and getting a couple more catscans.  But thankfully, no drilling into my skull became necessary.  I did have two areas of bleeding, but it was from the covering between my brain and skull and not my actual brain.  I have had headaches this week and I was instructed to avoid anything strenuous for about a week, including work.  But other than that, I will be fine.

Of course, I will hear all the jokes for a while about how I was crazy before, so I will definitely be crazier now; or, did it knock some sense into me, and everyone knew I was "hard-headed," and various other head jokes.  But that's ok.  I'm glad I'm around to laugh about it, too!!

I'm also grateful that the medical profession was ready to assist me in my hour of need. Thank you, Tanner Medical Center!  Thank you, Atlanta Medical Center!  Thank you, God, for allowing me to keep using this old noggan for a while longer!!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Does family size matter?

I watched a new episode of "19 and Counting," a show on TLC about the Duggar family who just added baby #19 to their family in December.  With baby Josie being born 3 months premature, I can't help but wonder if this will be the caboose to the train of Duggar children.  After all, 19 kids?  While you may have the financial means to care for 19 kids, what about the quality of time that parents should spend with their children?  I have only 3 kids and there were times that I felt stretched thin.  But 19??  No way!!  I would have been ready for the funny farm after about a half dozen!!

How can one Mom and one Dad meet all the love and nurturing needed for 19 kids?

My Mom was one of 10 children.  She was number 9 and was 17 years younger than her oldest sibling.  There were times when she resented them as they took on the roles of "Mom and Dad."  I understand the Duggars actually assign an older child to a younger child.  I have watched episodes where Mom hands off her babies to older children as if somehow it isn't her responsibility to take care of the children that she chose to birth.

Where do you draw the line between a child's responsibilities and a parent's in caring for smaller siblings?

As a parent myself, I can't help but think how much they are missing in the one-on-one department with so many small children to nurture at one time.  The Duggar home has less adult one-on-one nurturing on a daily basis than most orphanages or childcare facilities.  Hmmmmm...something to think about. 

Are we harming our children as we have become "doting parents" with our family size now at 3.2?

The average size of families in the U.S. has been shrinking for years.  In 2008, it was 3.2.  Subtract Mom and Dad, you essentially have only one child.  Or, there could be two kids and one parent, considering that 40% of the children born in 2006 were to single-parent homes.  Anyway you look at it, less children to a family in America today is the norm.  The parental dynamics are changing, too.  More grandparents are taking care of grandchildren today than any other time in history.  Are all these changes good for families, the foundation to what has helped build America?

It's going to be interesting to see how well the Duggar children turn out.  Will all of them be prepared for college after spending all their school years being home-schooled? Will all of them marry and have large families of their own?  Will all of them be well-adjusted adults without divorces, drug use, criminal issues, and all the other stuff that families deal with today?   The answer is probably no to all these questions.  But then, we face the same problems in our smaller families.

Obviously size isn't the only consideration that determines well-adjusted, successful, and happy families.

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Will you live to be 100...or possibly even beyond?

How long do you expect to live?

This photo is my Grandmother, who will celebrate her 90th birthday on February 28, 2010.  Her birthday is actually February 29.  She will have to live to age 92 for Leap Year to come around again.  I think she'll make it.

The 2008 World Factbook estimates life expectancy in the U.S. to be 77.5 to 80 years of age, which is higher than most areas in the world.  If you ever want to live abroad, consider Canada, some of the European countries, and Australia where life expectancies are beyond 80.  Factors such as access to public health, medical care, and a steady diet have increased our life spans.  Your personal life expectancy will be guided by your economic circumstances, the choices you make when it comes to the food you eat and the amount of exercise you get, and even your level of education and what occupation you pursue most of your life.  Genetic disorders, drug use, and excessive alcohol can also reduce your numbers.  

Will you join that elite club of super-centenarians and live beyond age 110? 

Jeanne Louise Calment from France lived to be 122 years old plus 164 days!  She holds the Guinness Book of Records for the longest confirmed life span in history, living from 1875 to 1997.  She didn't need nursing home care until after her 110th birthday, and then it was more about poor eye-sight than poor health.  I hate to even mention this, but she was even a smoker until age 117.  She contributed her longevity to a diet of olive oil, which was poured on all her food and even rubbed on her skin, port wine, and chocolate.  Yes, ladies, enjoy your chocolate!  She also stayed physically active most of her life.  At age 100, she was still riding a bike.  Maybe smokers should be sure to include a lot of olive oil in their diets and invest in a good treadmill or exercise bike.

Will you choose quality over quantity?
 
My grandmother has been in the nursing home now for about a year.  She lived with my Dad and then my Aunt for several years before they moved her to a nursing home facility.  Except for Parkinson's, the same disease as what Michael J. Fox has, she is still in fair health and may very well live several more years.  She is transported mostly by wheelchair now, but she still recognizes everyone.  Sometimes it's difficult to follow a conversation with her because she jumps between the past and present.  But overall, she still smiles and laughs when you visit her and seems to be in good spirits most of the time.  

If you live long enough, most of us will be faced with similar circumstances.  You may become dependent upon others to help care for you because your frailties will require it.  Strangers may help put you to bed, feed you, and touch your body in the most personal places when you can no longer do it yourself. It is enough to ask why we jump through all the hoops to extend our lives if this is how it will end.

One fact is certain.  Live life to its fullest while you have the health and means to do so.  For those of you who do nothing but save for retirement, don't forget to enjoy the journey now! Go places and do things so that you can tell your great-grandchildren about your life's adventures! Your memories will help sustain you, so don't forget to create a few along the way!  These memories may be what will define your quality of life when your quantity has overflowed way beyond the normal life expectancy.    

And by the way, enjoy that olive oil, glass of wine, and chocolate dessert for dinner tonight.....

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Sam, we're not in Ranburne anymore! We are in, "The Twilight Zone!"

Have you ever experienced déjà vu? Do you read your horoscope and have faith in the celestial readings of astrology? Did you believe in the weird stuff that Rod Serling used to tell us in, "The Twighlight Zone?" I always think there is an explanation for everything that verges on the supernatural, paranormal, and all those other psychological mumbo-jumbo words. But I may have to reconsider....

I reconnected with an old high school friend, Samantha, this past week. Samantha and I were born in the same town, in the same hospital, on the same date and year, and only about an hour apart 50 years ago. Her middle name is Ann. My middle name is Joann. By the time we were both 13, she and I were attending the same high school, although she was a year ahead of me because she started school in another state that allowed her to begin at age 5.  

Over the next 4 years, Samantha and I would bump into one another in the hallways to discover that we had on the same dress or the same pair of shoes. We both wore braces, which was still rare in the mid '70's in the rural South.  She was a varsity cheerleader and so was I. We both had red hair, fair skin, and a splattering of freckles. She and I both had blonde sisters, Sheila and Suzanne, who were in the same grade. Note that all four names have similarities in how they sound. The year after Samantha graduated, some of the younger students would call out to me in the hallways, "Hey Samantha!"  Above is Samantha's photo today.

Here is my photo today.  Samantha and I have not seen or spoken to one another in about 30 years. She currently lives in Texas while I live in Georgia. We reconnected via facebook this past week. It was nice catching up and learning that one thing different in our lives now is that she has a daughter while I have three sons. It didn't seem that significant that her daughter is 21 and so is my middle son. Our interconnection was obviously shortlived to a few years in high school.  Anyone can be born on the same date.  Nothing really that spectacular here ...or so I thought....

Here is what she posted back on December 26th to a friend on facebook: "My baby turns 21 tomorrow... it seems impossible." OK. This is where I felt the chill bumps run up my spine.  I read it three times to be sure my eyes were not deceiving me.  Her baby was born on December 27 and so was mine.  

The music is playing in my head as I hear Rod Serling say, "You have now crossed over into, THE TWILIGHT ZONE!"

Monday, January 18, 2010

Are We Alone in the Universe?


Do you remember when Neil Armstrong walked on the moon?

I sure do. My Mom made sure of it. July 20, 1969...a typical warm, humid night in rural Alabama. Up until then, non-fictional TV memories for me were sad events. I vaguely remember the assassination of JFK. While I don't remember MLK or RFK's deaths, I have way too many memories of the Vietnam War splattered across the TV screen every evening on the 6:00 news. So I happily recall this bit of space history.

I remember sitting cross-legged on the floor at my grandparents, barefoot, of course, in my typical summer wear of shorts and a light weight short-sleeved top, watching with anticipation for that first man-made step onto the moon. There was a little discussion about whether this was really happening or some kind of space conspiracy made up by NASA!

We watched it at my grandparents because they owned a "color" TV. Looking back, it's really kind of funny since everything except the flag was pretty much black and white. I guess Mama, along with the rest of the world, didn't really know what to expect. For all she knew the surface was going to be made of orange cheese and little purple creatures were going to pop up out of craters!

I'm so glad she made me watch. It is amazing what scientists and astronomers have discovered since that momentous "giant step for mankind." Just tuning in to the Discovery Channel about recent space explorations makes that magical moment on the moon in 1969 as simple as when man discovered the wheel! Move ahead now to 2010.

NASA's Kepler space telescope just discovered 5 new exoplanets, which are planets beyond our solar system, on its search to find habitable planets similar to the size of earth with close proximity to stars like our sun. Essentially, we are still looking to answer:

"Are we alone in the Universe?"

Ever since man has looked up in the sky, this question has been asked. With all the discoveries from the last 50 years, it would seem reasonable that we are closer now than ever to finally answering that question. But even the experts will tell you that there is so much about the universe yet to be known. Just like the mission to the moon, when it comes to space exploration, we are still pioneers. Can you imagine what mankind will know in another 500 years? That, my friend, is mind-boggling.

One day, my great-great-great-great-great...Ok, you get the picture...grandchildren will know this answer. Maybe my own little bit of history will be past down and they can tell the story about how their 9 year-old grandmother sat on the floor in a racially-biased country, during a decade of assassinations, while fighting a losing battle in a small country called Vietnam, on one of the first mainstream color televisions affordable to the general public, and watched the first man land and walk on the moon. Just like in 1969 and now in 2010, I hope my grandchildren won't be asking this same old question:

When will the war end?

Friday, January 15, 2010

Does anyone still believe in happily ever after?


Did you know that 40% of children born in 2007 were to single parent families? Do Americans really think that a child doesn't benefit from having two parents living under the same roof? Has the high divorce rate of our parents and grandparents taught the younger generations that marriage is all make believe? 64% of women and 50% of men who marry before age 24 will divorce.

Does anyone still believe in happily ever after?

I was rather shocked by a conversation I overheard between my three sons regarding prenuptial agreements. I heard their own pessimism about marriage and how legal documents before the I do's seemed totally logical. My boys, whose parents have never experienced divorce and are still married after 28 years, obviously have reservations about the happily ever after, too.

What has happened in America to change the fabric regarding the roles of marriage, parenthood, and family?


While the 70's ushered in the right for women to end their pregnancies, abortions have steadily declined since the early 90's as women choose to have their babies. Newborn adoptions have become rare as women have no qualms about raising their children without the added bonus of a father and husband. While most people applaud the pro-choice decisions, this has contributed to the increase in single-parent numbers. What it doesn't explain is why there is so little commitment from the parents-to-be when it comes to nurturing their children together under the same roof. What is up with that?

Bringing up children is hard work! Looking back, I am thankful my husband and I chose marriage and stayed committed to one another as we reared our children. While I hope our children will one day appreciate their one family unit, we didn't get married only because we wanted to have children and we haven't stayed married just for their benefit either. The same logic must apply for single parents today.

The upcoming birth of a child is obviously no longer a reason to marry. Is this a good thing?

Besides reasons like love and respect, I wish I could tell you what the magic formula has been for us. I asked my husband to give me one word to answer this very question and his response was "tolerate!" Well, he did chuckle when he said it! There are times where tolerance is part of the equation! While I cannot pinpoint one particular trait, I think one crucial element has been that Steve and I generally like one another. Just like in the movie, "When Harry met Sally," there is something to be said for sharing a healthy friendship with your spouse, too. With a healthy dose of friendship, love, respect, loyalty, selfless giving, and yes, even tolerance, flows much easier.

The good news is that the divorce rate has begun decreasing, particularly among those who wait until after age 24 to marry. I believe that marriages can last until "death do us part." I believe that children benefit from having a two-parent home and that marriage should come first.

OK..so I believe in the fairy tale! Doesn't everyone love a happy ending?

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Who comes to your rescue?


The images have become too common place. Just like the Tsunami, the destruction across the gulf from Hurricane Katrina, wildfires across the West, and now the earthquake that hit Haiti, some things cannot be stopped.

Who comes to your rescue in times of trouble?

Most of us will never experience a natural disaster. But everyone experiences difficulties throughout their lives. Maybe it will be losing a job, a serious medical problem, a teen pregnancy within your family, divorce, death, parents with failing health, and the list is truly endless. In 2005, my son had a serious car accident. My family, friends, and church were there for us. Visits, cards, food, even monetary assistance..Steve and I are still humbled by those who offered a helping hand, words of encouragement, and prayer for his recovery. In 2008, a tornado glazed over our home causing extensive damages and this time, we even had the Southern Baptist Disaster Team showing up with chain saws to help in this recovery.

It is humbling to see so many Americans reaching out to the Haitians following their horrific natural disaster. Already the news media is predicting that Haiti will see a much needed improvement to their living conditions due to the outpouring of relief that they will receive in the coming months. Except for the loss of life, Haiti will be rebuilt because of the charities of others. It also makes me proud to see past and present U.S. Presidents standing united to reach out to our neighbors during their time of need.

Haitians...the U.S. is coming to your rescue! You have our love and support! Hang on...help is on its way!

Monday, January 11, 2010

If Simon leaves Idol, who will we hate?


OK..I admit it. I am an Idol Watcher, a Simon Cowell fan, and I nearly cried when Paula hung up her dancing shoes and vacated the judges' desk this season. The team is fallin' apart, fellow Idol Worshippers!!

I didn't watch American Idol the first season. My sister talked about it and so the next season, I watched it and was hooked! My favorite winner overall has to be Carrie Underwood. What a package deal...the voice, the looks, and she even reeks sugar and spice and everything nice!

I don't agree with the winners every year either. Adam Lambert should have won last season if everyone calling in had been voting for the kid with the most talent. He had it hands down. I can't help but think people with their homophobias wouldn't vote for him.

I can't wait for the new season to start tomorrow night! I'm really looking forward to Ellen DeGeneres joining the team! I may have to eat my words but I think she will be a fantastic addition to this team of judges.

Simon Cowell....please don't leave us!! LOL


Sunday, January 10, 2010

Southern Snow ...a rarity...thankfully!


It snowed in Georgia! Not since the Great Blizzard of '93 has snow been on my sidewalk the third day and still counting.

We are plain ridiculous when talk first begins about the possibility of snow. We'll talk about it for days with the same excitement that children have about Santa. Then, if it finally happens, we are mesmerized by the tiniest of flakes when it starts falling from the sky. Even the news stations have cameras searching the pavement, hoods of cars, grass, and bushes for anything that remotely resembles a snowflake to show to their Southern audiences. It's really quite hilarious!

There is a slight problem when it snows in the deep South. We are not set up for the white stuff! We have our basements and emergency shelters for tornadoes, air conditioners for the hot summer heat waves, our sunscreen and tanning oils, swimming pools galore, but snow plows and all the other equipment you see up north, not at all! So when it snows, life comes to a standstill as it just did this past week in West Georgia and East Alabama and a few other Southernly spots.

For most of us folks in the hot South, we enjoy snow for a couple of days. Truthfully, once a year would be plenty for most of us. For some, once a decade is enough! Secretly, we talk among ourselves after a few days and just can't believe our neighbors North of us would want to live all winter dealing with snow! After a couple of days, we are ready for it to go! Mainly, we can't stand the cold air and ridiculously low temperatures that goes along with having snow. Most of us don't even own a heavy winter coat! We shiver in our shorts and sandals when it gets below 40 degrees!

Tomorrow will be the fourth day with snow on the ground....goodbye already!!! I'm so looking forward to 50 degree temps again on Wednesday! Someone remind me how cold it has to be when I start wishing for snow!

Teen drivers are an oxymoron!


Teen and drivers should never have been words that made sense together. My youngest son is now driving and I am probably more nervous with him than I ever was with his two older brothers. Could it have something to do with being 50 now?

It probably has more to do with the trauma his oldest brother, Ben, put his family through over 5 years ago. Ben really didn't do anything different than most of us have to admit to trying behind the wheel of a car at his age. He just had the accident. Racing with a friend and causing serious injuries to one of the other boys in the car landed him two years in a Georgia Correctional Facility. It also nearly cost him his life as well. 2 punctured lungs, laceration to his spleen, and 7 broken ribs were just the worst of his injuries. Being airlifted to an Atlanta trauma center, ICU, hospitalized for two weeks, pneumonia...it took him about 4 months to recover.

Ben has been out of prison for nearly two years now, but his life is still not easy. He is continually monitored by the Parole Office and will be for another year or so. Then he will have 5 years of probation. He still has a couple of years to go before he can get his license back. In the State of Georgia, serious injury by vehicle also means you lose your license for 5 years. He cannot leave the State of Georgia without permission. He will never own a firearm, which doesn't make sense considering a car accident somehow doesn't equate with crimes by guns. He also lost his right to vote for 10 years. Ben will be around 31 years old before he will ever vote for the first time.

Before you feel that somehow the punishment seems a little harsh for the crime since he did not intentionally set out to harm anyone, you should know that the 16 year old boy that was in the car with him that day never made a full recovery. He suffered a serious head injury that has handicapped him for life. While Ben continues to trudge through these legal and emotional difficulties, eventually I have faith that he will persevere.

So if your kids haven't started driving yet and I've scared you to death even thinking about it now, take every opportunity to talk to your kids about driving safely. Get educated and educate them. The risk for being involved in a car accident is the highest for ages 16 - 19. Ben was only two months past his 20th birthday when it happened to him. While over 5,000 teens will die this year from car accidents, over 400,000 will suffer serious injury as Ben and one of his passengers did. Share Ben's story with your children and teach them that there is no such thing as a car "accident" when people are injured, just different levels of criminal charges.

Drive safely!

Yes...there is quicksand in Georgia!

If you read my first blog, you are probably curious about this quicksand in Georgia. I will post this story first and see if you can top anything as bizarre as this one!

Ben was about 10 and Brant 7. Bart was just a baby. Ben and Brant and our neighbor's two boys, Ivan and T.J., were all about the same age and had played together for years. But as they had gotten older, they had become braver in their adventures together. About a mile through the woods behind my home is our town's very small industrial park. A new business had just finished up construction. The boys had been playing army in the outskirts of these shared woods. But on this day, they ventured farther and stumbled upon this facility.

As they were walking around checking things out, one of the employees spied them. It was a Saturday, and typically only a handful of people were even working. He told the boys they needed to move on, which they complied. But instead of walking down the drive to the street, or even through the woods back home, my oldest son, Ben, was curious to what this pipe was sticking out of the ground right below the drive.

Of course, Brant followed Ben. He was just as curious, but was also in the habit of following his older brother's lead, too. As they walked down the hill towards the pipe, they began to notice that the soft sand began changing into mud...what fun!! A little mud is always great when you are 7 and 10! As they ventured closer to the pipe, the mud became a little more difficult to maneuver. But they couldn't stop now...they were nearly to the pipe!

Ben and Brant were now standing about knee-deep in this silky sand from months of run-off from the construction, which was also the holding pond. It had essentially dried out from lack of rain, except for this area in the middle of the pond that was nothing more than a large area of mush. It also explains what this pipe was that had Ben so intrigued.

Once Ben realized that there was danger in going any farther into the mud, he and Brant began trying to go back. They couldn't. The mud, which I will now call quicksand, had wrapped it's silky fingers around their little legs and was literally pulling them under! Brant began to cry and Ben began yelling for Ivan and T.J. A 6th grader and the oldest of the group, Ivan decided he would go to the end of the drive and wave a car down. Because it was a Saturday, there wasn't any traffic in the Park, which Ivan soon discovered. T.J. was only in the third grade and his instinct was, "I'm going home!" But as he started back through the woods, he got scared that he wouldn't know his way home alone, and turned back around. It saved my boys lives.

Upon coming back to the pond, T.J. could not find Ivan. He asked Ben where was Ivan, at which time Ben's sense of danger must have really kicked in as he lied to T.J., "He's gone under..now go up there and get help!" Up there was back to the facility where the worker had come out and told them to leave.

You would think this would have been the first place everyone would have thought to go for help. But the boys were probably just a tad scared that they would get in trouble if they bothered the worker again. By now, even T.J.'s sense of danger was in overdrive as he began pounding on the door and luckily, a worker heard the noise. His first instinct was just to get the boys out himself. He found out without even going knee-deep that there was no way he could. He dialed 911.

During this time, Brant had begun to cry. Ben had figured out that the less you moved, the less you were sucked under more. It was hard for Brant to understand he needed to be still. By the time the fire truck, ambulance, city police, and the County Sheriff's department all arrived and they were finally pulled out, the quicksand was chest high on Brant and about waist high on Ben. If T.J. had not gone for help when he did, another hour and my two sons would have literally drowned in quicksand.

By the time the city dispatcher called me and stated, "I have two Jones boys stuck in the mud over at the industrial park," my first reaction was that he had called the wrong Jones family. My boys were not old enough to drive! I had visions of boys mud-bogging and how could it possibly be mine? After he convinced me to drive to the site, I was leaving when Ivan appeared on the scene. Red-faced and sweating from running all the way back through the woods, it was then that I understood that it was in fact my two boys. But being in mud still didn't register to me as a life or death situation.

I drove casually towards the center of town and it wasn't until I began passing the county sheriff's cars that I began to feel a little sense of panic. Normally, you won't see several cars at once in our small little town. By the time I topped the hill at the industrial park and saw all the lights and emergency response vehicles did I understand something was terribly wrong!

When I drove up to the building, a fireman was hosing down my two boys, covered in mud. When he told me what had happened and how close I came to losing my two boys, I think I went into total shock. As I loaded them up into the backseat of the car and started driving home, the looks on their faces told the real story. They were totally quiet and had the most somber looks on their faces, all the while shivering from the cold water that had just been washed over them.

Steve had been at work that day and had missed it all. When he got home, he and I drove back over to the industrial park. Not until then did it really hit me when I looked out across the pond and saw the small holes where my two boys had been pulled to safety how close we came to losing our two boys!

Who would have thought that there was quicksand in Georgia? I thought it was only in places like Africa! You may wonder what kind of punishment Ben and Brant received? Are you kidding? Being in the quicksand was punishment enough!

A long time comin'...

Considering how much I enjoy talking, I should have been blogging for a long time! Who had the time! Like Elvis, I have been busy "taking care of business" .. family business, which includes my husband and three sons. Lets just say there is a lot of testosterone flowing at the Joneses!

Some of the stories you will hear will be quite unique like when my boys found quicksand in Georgia and just like in "Tarzan," nearly went under! There have been way too many trips to the ER and not for a high fever! One phase in my life was totally unexpected. My oldest son spent 2 years in a State of Georgia prison. I hope you will keep in touch and read all my stories and possibly gain some wisdom along the way or just be thankful you never walked in my shoes!

I have a lot to say...always have!! LOL Check back regularly so you can continue "Keeping up with the Joneses from Georgia!" Feel free to share them, too!